Having Phone Sex – A Simple Guide

Perfecting the art of phone sex can be a skill that can come in handy. You never know, sometimes, your orgasm might just be a phone call away. There are a lot of reasons a couple might decide to have phone sex. Apart from the fact that phone sex is normally used by couples in long distance relationships, it can also be a great foreplay idea. Talking dirty on the phone just hours before you partner comes home can be an amazing way to spice up your sex life. While talking dirty comes easily to most, some people might need a little help coming up with the right words and sounds to get your partner all excited.

Tantalizing talk isn’t as tricky as you think. Just use your erotic imagination. Share your steamy desires, describe details from your favorite fantasy or give him/her a play-by-play of what you wish you were doing to them.

So, for couples who have got the real life sex area down pat, but are at a loss at how to have phone sex, here are some helpful tips..

 

First, you should probably plug in your headset to avoid having to hold your phone which might cause neck cramps, besides, you might wanna free your hands for ‘other stuff’ ;)

Hold all calls for the time being, trust me, you wouldn’t wanna be interrupted by a phone call from your mom just when you’re about to reach climax. Just saying.

Relax into the conversation at first, talk about the usual stuff and be sure you have reached a comfortable state before initiating phone sex. When you’re ready and need the words to to turn the convo sexual, you can say something like “I wish you were here” for starters. Then go on from there.

Don’t immediately break out into your best phone-sex-operator impression, take it slow and trust me, get into the mood and relax. Don’t suddenly start spewing obscenities like a porn star, you might not have the effect on your partner that you were hoping for. Let the words come to you as the mood strikes.

 

 

Dead air during phone sex can dampen the mood, but some heavy breathing, the occasional moan, or simply whispering their name can fill the awkward silences. Whatever you do, make some noise! Otherwise your partner will think that you’re watching TV or something.

You can also delve into describing a fantasy that you had, or something you’d like them to do to you. Talk about it in narrative , sort of like telling a story. For example “I imagine you lifting me up, kissing me slowly……”

To get your partner in on the action, ask them what they’re doing. Ask exactly how it feels. Ask what they’d do to you if you weren’t a thousand miles away. If your partner is on the shy side, get them talking with a few yes or no questions: “Are you undressed? Does that feel good?

Whatever you do, don’t laugh at anything your partner says, ever; not only will it ruin the mood, it will make them forever self-conscious and inhibited in the verbal sex department.

Whatever you end up saying, say it with confidence and don’t censor yourself: If you’re embarrassed, then your partner will be embarrassed for (and by) you. Commit to the dirty talk, and you should have an eargasmic experience.

Remember, aural sex isn’t all talk and no action. Up the erotic ante by simultaneously masturbating. Explain to each other exactly what you’re doing (“I’m tracing circles on my inner thigh”) and how it’s feeling (“I’m getting so wet”) etc.

If you aren’t comfortable initiating a kinky conversation, suggest your partner take the lead. Close your eyes and concentrate on every wanton word. As you touch yourself, fantasize that you’re feeling his tantalizing fingers caressing your skin. If at first you feel shy, just moan or sigh while he narrates a naughty story. As the encounter escalates, you may be very surprised at the frisky phrases that pop out of your mouth.

As with Live Sex, be sure you’re doing it for fun and not because you are being pressured. Trust me, if you are having phone sex out of obligation, your partner will feel it and this can lead to a very awkward situation.

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