Sometimes having a little menage-a-moi isn’t such a bad idea. It’s the most awesome feeling having a little alone time with your favorite person ever – you. Some women are still a little stumped when it comes to how, where and when to touch themselves. Not knowing what you are doing with yourself sometimes can be very frustrating, So ladies, just in case your home alone, horny and no guy around, don’t you fret, I’ve got tips to make sure you get to that Big O each time you touch yourself. Take a look.
The clitoris is your best bud, and it’s the only organ in the human body designed exclusively for pleasure. With somewhere between 6,000 and 8,000 nerve endings (if you’re keeping score, that’s almost double the amount of nerve endings in a penis), you can get a lot of feeling out of your clit. Just be gentle at first. Instead of going directly for the head, rub the shaft. Massage the hood. Turn it on slowly and gently. Insert a finger or two into your vagina if you like the feeling of something inside of you when you masturbate. That’s where you’ll find the G-spot.
The G-spot isn’t actually a spot, it’s more of a cluster, and after you’re aroused you should insert one or two fingers into the vagina, and massage the top wall of the vagina with the tips of your fingers. Some women like stimulation on the top wall better, others prefer the bottom, and some want no internal stimulation at all. If you need clitoral stimulation to get where you need to go, you are not alone. Only 30% of women can orgasm without clitoral stimulation, so don’t be shy about rubbing your own clit when you need to.
So how you should rub? Try making circles around your clit. Draw the number eight around your vulva. Test out the alphabet. Use your hand like a paintbrush. Play with the shaft of your clit (check it out, just massage the clitoral hood to find it). Tap on your clit as you get closer to orgasm. Squeeze and release your PC (AKA kegel) muscles. Set the mood, listen to music, light candles, dress in something silky. Take your time. Try the shower head, or position yourself under the running water from the tub’s faucet (My personal favorite).
You can always use a sex toy. A vibrator has given loads of women their first orgasms, and vibration on your clitoris can feel spectacular. Sex toys that buzz will not make it more difficult for you to achieve great sex with a partner; in fact it can make it easier. A vibe is a great teacher tool. If you feel a vibrator would make your clit less sensitive, you can always discontinue use and go back to what works, your fingers.
Remember, whichever way you choose, have a lil fun, go with the flow, let the mood take you there and work with whatever works for you. If you’re not relaxed, you won’t achieve the orgasm you desire.