Why Women Forgive Cheaters (But Men Don’t)

 

Today a report claimed that more than 6 in 10 women would happily forgive their partner for up to three ‘relationship errors’, but a massive 9 out of 10 men would dump their partner if they strayed just once. So what’s up with that? A quick poll around the office revealed three possible reasons…

We’re more realistic

Yes, people cheat. And don’t get me wrong, it’s crap, wrong and horribly heart-wrenching when it happens. But maybe it’s us girls who know that it doesn’t always have to be a black and white ‘dumping’ issue and that hey, maybe, we can get over it and it’s not always the end of the world. As a society we actually need to be more tolerant of affairs and that sometimes, they can even be a good thing. If you take the view that  most of them blow over and a good marriage is still a good marriage we should be a bit more laid back about them. Controversial? Absolutely. Realistic? Maybe.

Men are territorial

Of course, the other explanation is that men’s egos simply can’t take the battering of being cheated on. As a rule, men tend to be much more territorial about their partners and while most men can’t handle the idea of their partner getting it on with somebody else, women tend to react much more strongly to emotional affairs than just physical affairs. A survey of my male friends revealed that they just can’t handle the idea of another guy getting their mitts on “their goods” and simply can’t get over it. As one male friend put it, “It’s just not very masculine thing to let another guy get it on with your girlfriend and let them get away with it, is it? We’d look like a right walkover.” Could it be that men are prepared to throw away years of investment after one (probably stupid) mistake just for the sake of their pride? And that women are able to see past infidelity and see the bigger picture? Possibly.

It’s our low self-esteem

Of course, the other explanation isn’t quite as empowering. Could our readiness to accept affairs actually be down to a darker reason, like our low self-esteem? A recent survey showed that 3 out of 4 women say they lack confidence, compared with 57% of men. We also know that women in the workplace rate themselves as less competent than their male counterparts (a recent study showed than only half of women managers said they had high levels of confidence, compared to 70% of men). So could it be happening in relationships too? As a colleague reminded me earlier this week, once women hit 35, there’s just one single man to every seven women (seriously) so perhaps it’s this panic making us feel that we should hang on to our guy, no matter how tough it gets – because, hey, it’s better than being single!

 

 

Source; Cosmopolitan

4 comments on “Why Women Forgive Cheaters (But Men Don’t)

  1. I propose to this girl about 18-20yrs of age.she accepted but was avoiding me and she went to school the next day and she is a bother.after she went, I meat this lady(lu.) who is 5yrs older than with a son but look very pretty and young.I went crazy about her and she gave me medication,oooh God,she is very sexy and care about me much.she even told me one when we talking about love that,am too young to no all this things about love.now the school have come home but I don’t want to loos lu cuz am still in her medication and I don’t want to hurt the school girl,pleas? What should I do?

  2. Its natural but not necessary that a man cheats. A man can cheat on his woman and go away with it if the need arises. But on no condition and circumstance should my woman cheats on me. She should expect no pity or forgiveness because non will be given to her.

  3. If man-woman relationship is a do or die affair then either partner is sincerely in it or out.
    Women easily forgiving men over cheating didn’t stem from valueing the emotional aspect of relationship more than the physical. Rather I based it on feeling of insecurity.
    If the competition at age 35 is very high for women in one part of the world, in some other parts even at 25 it ends in ‘man snatching’.
    Women often say: ‘cheating is a game that two can play’. Being Realistic? Where’s tolerance?

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