6 Sex Mistakes Men Make

Men may think that the “101 Guide To What A Woman Wants” manual that they carry around in their heads is foolproof – but actually, it may contain a lot of basic myths and errors about women’s sexuality – errors that can definitely lead to some fizzle in the bedroom.

That’s because — after learning the facts of life — most of us are left to figure out sex for ourselves. Guys tend to take a lot of cues from adult movies, and we all know how false those are. Experience may help, but many women can be shy when talking about what they like.

Mistake 1: You Assume You Know What She Wants

Men often make assumptions about what a woman wants based upon what they’ve done with other women. But remember that women aren’t all the same – what may feel good to one person, or where they like to be touched, may be completely different with someone else.

Mistake 2: You Assume You Have All She Needs

Some women can’t have an orgasm with less than 3,000 rpm. No human tongue or fingers can generate that kind of vibration. But men typically think something is wrong if a woman needs a vibrator.

Mistake 3: You Assume That Sex Feels The Same for Men and Women

There tends to be a “huge disconnect” between men and women in terms of perceptions about what feels good.  In reality, the inside of the vagina is probably less sensitive than the outer parts for most women. Also, deep thrusting may not feel so nice on the receiving end. If the penis is too long, it can feel like you’re getting punched in the stomach or similar to how a man feels if he’s hit in the testicle area.

Mistake 4: You Assume You Know Your Way Around a Woman’s Anatomy

Most guys know generally what a clitoris is and where to find it. That’s not to say that they really understand it, though. Though decades of science has proved this to be wrong, the belief that women must be able to orgasm from vaginal penetration stubbornly persists.

Men also lack information about how to touch it and how sensitive it is.

A touch that’s bliss for one woman may feel like nothing special, or may even be painful for someone else. Some prefer indirect stimulation.

How can you find out how she likes to be touched? Try asking her.

Mistake 5: You Assume When She’s Turned On

Guys sometimes get hung up if a woman doesn’t get slippery enough for easy penetration. Don’t worry about it.
I think there’s a myth that if you’re turned on, you’re wet. Not necessarily.

Some women tend to get wetter than others, and how much natural lubrication a woman has can change from day to day. It varies by the phase of her menstrual cycle, and it’s subject to influences like stress and medications.

Mistake 6: You Assume That Silence Is Golden

A lot of guys think they should be silent during sex, but unless you speak up, your partner has to guess about what it and isn’t working.

If you’re respectful about it, your woman will probably appreciate some directions. Saying things like ‘this is how I like it,’ is a very useful conversation to have.

 

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18 comments on “6 Sex Mistakes Men Make

  1. Thanks a lot. Most men always feels they are pro when it has come to this. But few points of yours has proven us wrong. I must say that am impress.

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