“I Love My Man But He Doesn’t Satisfy Me In The Bedroom”

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I’ve been in a relationship for 2 years now. We live together and both work full-time. He has a great family and our families like both of us and both of us together.

Well, my sex life sucks. Normally you hear men complain about women or their wives not giving it up. Well in this instance it’s completely the other way around. We have a 7 year age difference. He’s 30 and I’m 23. He’s never been married nor does he bare any children (other qualities that attracted me to him).

Well, when it comes to sex, we speak a totally different language. I’m a very sexual and affectionate person. I love to kiss, touch, etc. Basically do things that people in love and relationships do. Well he’s not into any of that. When it comes to kissing, he’s a pecker. When it comes to touching, he doesn’t. I’m an attractive woman so I’ve asked numerous of times is he still attracted to me, and he says yes, but I couldn’t tell from our sex life.

Let me give you two scenarios before we have sex or I attempt to have sex. I’ll ask if he wants to and he’ll make that, “I don’t care” face. What person do you know does that? Then he’ll be like, “I’m watching TV” or, “I’m tired,” and it takes me getting upset for him to be like, “Oh, alright then,”.

Next scenario, we’ll be in bed or on the couch and I’ll initiate by kissing or touching on him and he’s ready in a flash, but when it comes to turning me on or getting me in the mood he does nothing. He expects me to just be ready like that. I tell him that I’m a woman and you have to get me in the mood. It always falls upon deaf ears, so needless to say that I have to use some hand action for myself, then it goes down and 5 minutes later it’s over. I then look at him like let’s go at it again, and he’ll be like, “Let me rest.” I have needs also.

Everything else is okay in our relationship except our sex lives. I need your advice. Should sex be a reason to stay or leave a relationship?

18 comments on ““I Love My Man But He Doesn’t Satisfy Me In The Bedroom”

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  2. No it should not, or at least it shouldn’t have to be. I think having good sex is, very important if you are to have a fulfiling, loving and lasting relationship, but I have been happily married for 18 years and can tell you from experience that communication is the key to it all, and that goes both ways. You must help him and yourself, in teaching each other, learning and finding ways to please each other in and out of the bedroom. Enjoy the journey.:)

  3. Sweetheart, as everything is going on well in ur relationship, so also should it b in ur sex life. Communication is da best. Teach him and help him to xplore. Then put God 1st. Cheers xXx.

  4. I was in a relationship with a woman for 4 years. When we first started dating (both 28) it was fun. Well for one i shagged her on the floor after a party in the dark among the sleeping bodies, but she was never really adventurous as me. She was very self conscious about her arse. I thought she had a great one. In fact i love licking around woman’s butts. It totally turns them on. You’d be surprised how many men neglect their woman’s bodies, yet this woman did not like anything going near her brown hole. I’d try sensual massages but it was still out of bounds. I took to watching porn on the sly. That was another thing out of bounds.. Porn. When we first dated we had loads of nookie after watching some moustached German men pounding blondes outdoors by a lake. It’s like everything changed a few months in. If i couldn’t lick ringo then there was fat chance of anything else going on. Her donning a strap-on was definitely a big NO NO.

    I’d always have to make the first move sexually. It was tough trying to talk about it as she’d say she feels funny about acting like that. Stupidly i bought a house with her. The thought of living together with a 25 year mortgage and a bland sex life caused friction and we had a massive blazing argument in Spain on a family holiday. We both admitted we weren’t happy and its best to call it a day. Which we did when we got home. If you are gonna get crap sex for the rest of your life then your mind is gonna go wandering. Sex IS Important because otherwise you may as well just be brother and sister or just friends. My parents are more like good friends (well that’s what my mum says. She says dad was crap in bed anyway). I’d have hated to be just like them.

    I got a friend in work. She’s stunning and her bf isn’t interested in sex much either. Me and her used to talk filth all the time and it just frustrates her relationship. They are still together and have been for over 10 years. She keeps hoping it’ll get better one day..

  5. MY DEAR, SINCE OTHER SIDES OF UR MAN ARE OK, PLS I ADVISE U 2 STAY WIT HIM & MOVE ON WIT AT A VERY SLOW PACE WEN IT COMES 2 BED ISSUES BCOS NOBODY ON EARTH IS 100% PERFECT, EVERYBODY HAS HIS/HER OWN PROBLEMS/SHORTCOMINGS. PLS DO STICK 2 HIM & TEACH HIM & DON’T DARE GO INTO EXTRA-MARITAL AFFAIR, IT DAMAGES
    MARRIAGE.

  6. First: Tell or take ur husban to see a doctor or for a medical check up; if nothing is wrong wit him. D doctor should prescribe some drugs 4him; dat will solve d problem. Love is d most impotant thing both men n women will want 2get. So, do does things u wil c changes. Bye!

  7. Sex is an important aspect of any relationship btw man nd woman. I wil advice u 2 quit or to live by it. Ur sex lives hav 2 b d same if nt you wil definately happen in d nearerest future than expected. 2 b candid wth u am facing similar thing wth my woman. She doesnt like it while i love it nd i hav 2 bear it.

  8. pls my dear i wil like to advise u to kip d relation moving nd continue teaching him cus it may nt b his fought base on hw some familes bring up there children, he shal surely meet ur standrd one day

  9. Hmmmm!Dis is really a very sensitive issue dat needs careful handling.Your guy could do with a psychological assistance.I tell U,any r/tionship dat lacks an active sex life is definitely heading for the rocks.If it’s a platonic affair,den it’s a different ball game.

  10. FIRST, I WANT U TO KNOW THAT SEX SHOULD ONLY BE ENJOYED IN MARRIAGE. HOWEVER, WITH THE PRESENT SITUATION IF YOU EVENTUALLY GET MARRIED TO HIM YOU WILL CHEAT ON HIM WHICH WII NOT GO WELL AY ALL. MY ADVICE IS, IF YOU TRULY LOVE THIS MAN AS YOU SAID THEN CALL HIM AND DISCUSS THE ISSUE WITH HIM. IF IT CONTINUE THEN YOU SHOLD TOLERATE HIS SEX LIFE. BUT IF YOU CANT I WILL ADVICE YOU QUIT AND GET A MAN WHO CAN SATISFY YOU BUT PLEASE NOTE THAT IT HAS CONSEQUENCIES AND YOU WILL FACE IT YOURSELF. 08095480496

  11. sex should not be the cause of you quitting ur relationship, all you have to do is to go along with his character in sex. Pretend as if u dont care abt the sex issue 4 sometime no matter how u are in the mood and see his reactions, and if he does change, then u knw there’s nothing u can do abt it. Or It might be u dont fit 2 his taste in sex, that’s why he acts dat way. But pls be careful and watchful.

  12. Sex does not make one 2 live.continue with the relationship and then also try to see a sex therapist to help you both build ur sexual life

  13. Sex is an important part of a relationship and if your sex life is not great, the relationship is heading for a rock. One of you will definitely cheat someday and once that begins to happen in a relationship, its no more solid and if the outside party turns out to be a pleasure in bed, the problem at home will become conspicuous and down goes the relationship

  14. sex shouldnt be a problem in a relationship wat matters most is dat u love each other so i advice u 2 stay wit ur man and forget doz sex stuff

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