For all their emotional complications, “friends-with-benefits” relationships may offer one advantage: safer sex.
The results of a new study show that people in friends-with-benefits relationships are more likely to use condoms during oral and vaginal sex compared to those in traditional romantic partnerships.
So, what if you do not have a “friends-with-benefits” relationship but like the idea of casual sex?
What are the benefits of casual versus non-casual sex? And is it a good idea for you to have casual sex? Will it benefit you or not?
If you are young and single, it is your choice what you do with your body. Here are some questions to ask yourself first:
1. How do I feel after having sex with someone I don’t know well? Does it make me feel alive and happy or do I feel let down?
2. Can I trust that I have not done anything that will jeopardize my physical or mental health? Sometimes we kid ourselves into saying it was just for fun and then wait by the phone to see if we hear from him again. It is also important to have protected sex if you don’t know the guy. Even if you do know him, he can feed you a line and then you end up with something you didn’t expect and certainly don’t need.
3. Is my self-esteem really intact? Do I have a strong sense of myself and do what I do from a place of confidence? Don’t fool yourself into thinking that just because someone sleeps with you, you’ll feel better about yourself. If you already feel good about yourself you will not need that outside approval.
4. Why am I having sex? Is it to avoid facing my own demons? By sexualizing feelings, we avoid facing our own issues. And while facing our issues head on can be scary, it’s a better path to self-growth.
5. Am I a sex addict? All addictions have a sneaky way of being rationalzied and denied.
Take a long hard look at yourself before you decide, and if you are in a committed relationship, think twice before any casual sex. You may never be able to repair the trust issue you create.