Ladies, here’s something you might not know: Timing is pretty crucial when it comes to sex! You’ve probably heard that the ideal time of the month to get pregnant is when you’re ovulating (usually in the middle of your menstrual cycle, between day 11 and 21, depending on the person), but you may not realize that certain times of the day, month and year are best for other sexual goals. For a more satisfying sex life, here’s when to get busy if you…
1. …want an amazing orgasm.
This may sound counterintuitive, but the day you’re most likely to experience a mind-bending orgasm is actually the day before you get your period. When blood accumulation makes your uterus heavy, contractions are more perceptible during orgasm, and your labial and clitoral tissue tends to be more sensitive when you retain fluids. Convince yourself to give sex a shot, even if you’re feeling grouchy and uncomfortable, because it may cheer you right up.
2. …want to drive your guy wild.
As you’ve likely noticed, men often wake up with erections. So instead of making him wait all day, set your alarm for 10 minutes earlier on a work day and have a quickie first thing in the morning. You might enjoy it more, too. As women age, they tend to get more tired at night, so evening sex is less desirable. In other words, you have more energy for a crack-of-dawn romp than a late-night one.
3 ….want to relieve pain.
If you can get past the ick factor, making love while you’re on your period can actually reduce uncomfortable cramps. It may be because an orgasm causes uterine contractions, which ease pain, and your body releases the hormone oxytocin and the neurotransmitter dopamine, which make you feel happy and relaxed. If you can expect sex when Aunt Flo shows, you just may look forward to your time of month!
4 …want to feel confident in bed.
Get it on after you’ve broken a sweat. A study found that people who exercise without losing fat or gaining strength or endurance feel just as much body confidence as those who get fitter. So even if you don’t look different from your workout, you will think you do. That improved self-esteem could make you freer between the sheets. Maybe you’ll even leave the lights on!
5. …are too busy.
Schedule a weekend date night when you don’t have a work commitment and are less exhausted. You don’t even have to leave the house! Put on some mellow music, and take a breather together from the hectic week to enjoy each other’s company. Consider asking a friend or relative to take the kids out—the more romantic and relaxed the environment, the more you set the stage for amazing sex. Focus on quality over quantity.
6…want to get out of a sexual rut.
The longer you’ve been with your partner, the harder it is to be creative in the bedroom. And missionary style every Saturday night can get a little boring. To mix things up, set an alarm for 3 A.M. and straddle your spouse in the middle of the night. We’re pretty sure he won’t mind being woken up.