Women are verbal creatures at heart. That’s why they read erotica, get hooked on soaps and love men with foreign accents. These things make them feel the same way we do, as men, when we spot a beautiful woman with huge breasts.
Though what excites them is drastically different from what arouses us, there’s good news there. If you can paint a picture with a few choice words, you can turn them on. So it’s in our best interests to learn to say the right things. With that in mind, here are the best things to say to a lady once you separate her from those pesky clothes.
“I want to make you feel good.”
Simple, yet effective. A wonderful way to relax her and reassure her that she made the right decision going to bed with you. Drop this one right before or during foreplay for maximum effect.
“I love the sounds you make when you orgasm.”
If you know your girl well and know that she does, indeed, orgasm, then this one is for you. And sometimes, even if she does orgasm, a woman feels awkward being vocal during sex. But most of us like a loud woman in bed, because it helps us to know when you’re pleasing her. So you can encourage her to turn up the volume by telling her how much you enjoy it.
“You have such (a) hot [insert body part].”
Pick a favorite body part to mention, but make it one you know she’s proud of. That way, there’s no controversy. Women are notorious for being sensitive to clumsy compliments about their bodies, so tread carefully.
“I love the way you taste. I could stay down here for hours.”
This reassures her that you like giving her oral sex and that there are no foul odors emanating from that area. You can say this one during a short break from oral sex or directly afterwards. It probably comes off best when said in a gravely, semi-exhausted voice.
“What are you imagining right now?”
This will encourage her to talk about her sexual desires and participate in setting the mood. The idea here is to let her release any bottled-up fantasies or requests that she would otherwise not mention.
“This feels so good. I love it when you [insert action here].”
Again, this is meant to boost her comfort level (and ego) with a little positive feedback. And, hey, if she knows you like something, perhaps she’ll take note for future reference.
“You’re so good at [insert action here].”
Let her know when she’s doing something you like. Like us, women take special pride in being good in bed. This phrase is best said with an air of disbelief and an emphasis on “so.”
“Your skin is so soft and smooth.”
Ladies spend a lot of time rubbing things such as cocoa butter on their bodies after a shower. It’s time we appreciated this strange ritual with a well-placed compliment. Because this is a seductive remark, it’s best to say it before sex. However this could also double for use during pillow talk, taking the place of “Honey, I want to buy you the Benz.”
“I want to kiss every inch of you.”
Women love foreplay and they love to be pampered. Even if you don’t actually intend on kissing every inch of her body, she’ll know your heart is in the right place. What you’re telling her is that you love and appreciate all of her. It’s very comforting to hear.
“I’ve never felt this good before.”
Women love to be singled out as special, different and unique. If she does something to you in bed that has never been done so pleasurably before, tell her as much. Say it so sincerely that she thinks you’re going to name your car after her. Just don’t trip up and say something like “It’s the best ever,” which would be overdoing it.
“You’re so *(expletive)* hot!”
Straightforward is often the best way to go. And swearing is one way to tell her that you really mean it. Women often respect the take-charge John Wayne routine.
There are two ways to talk dirty: aggressive and tame.
Aggressive, in which you order her around and even degrade her a little bit. You must start small and feed off of her reactions and replies.
Tame, in which you comment on her body and things you imagine doing to her without using any derogatory words.
Be sure to gauge how she reacts to what you say. If you’ve been dating for months and suddenly break out the dirty talk in bed, she might be a little taken aback by your potty mouth.