5 Surprising Things That Are Killing Your Sex Drive


Having a low sex drive sucks, and it’s even worse having to talk about it with your doctor or partner. Unfortunately, if you’re experiencing a low sex drive, there aren’t many options.

Read up on some surprising things that are (and aren’t) affecting your sex drive, and how you can get back on track in the sack.

Alcohol and Caffeine: 

Booze and caffeine can lower your sex drive, but it depends on how much you are ingesting and how often. Caffeine, a stimulant, can aggravate underlying anxiety conditions, which can lessen desire for sex. Lots of alcohol is bad for libido, erectile function and orgasmic function. But in smaller amounts (especially for men who experience anxiety), alcohol might increase libido.


Everyone knows that too little exercise can lower sex drive, but too much can, too. Excessive exercise that leads to conditions akin to eating disorders and Body Dysmorphic Disorder can have a negative impact on sex drive, putting your body into a negative, catabolic-like state.


Repeated viewing of porn or even just associated masturbation can cause over-stimulation of dopamine, the neurotransmitter that triggers sexual pleasure. If this happens over and over, it becomes harder for the brain to respond. This can be reversed by avoiding pornography and sticking to a healthier masturbating pattern. It might sound easy, but men often have a hard time self-regulating this behavior, which is why often people seek professional help.


If you’re in a rough patch with your partner, it might be the culprit, lessening sex drive even in men who once had a healthy one, as a form of self-protection. If you sense a wall, identify what’s bothering you and talk to your partner about it. You do have to address the issues, though. Avoiding the conversation might make your partner feel rejected or even suspect you’re being unfaithful.


Since sleep deprivation and exhaustion negate sexual interest, new moms and dads often experience a hit to their sex drive. And while fathers are spared from physiological changes other than being busy, sleep deprived and anxious, a woman has significant hormonal volatility post-delivery and breastfeeding will increase the level of prolactin, the hormone that stimulates milk production and lowers sex drive. Plus, baby weight often makes new-moms uncomfortable with their new bodies, adding another barrier to intimacy.


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